The answer to the unasked question: WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD WOMEN?

(Previously I wrote a blog answering the question:  "Where are all the good men?"  To read it, click here.)

There seems to be this assumption:

That a plethora of good women sit around in hopeless frustration, waiting for nonexistent good men.  In other words, it is assumed that there are very many good women and very few (if any) good men; that it is much easier to find a good woman than it is to find a good man.  I'll tell you who does NOT assume this:  good men, AND GOD!  

Look at these scriptures:

“Look,” says the Teacher,“this is what I have discovered:

“Adding one thing to another to discover the scheme of things—

while I was still searching

but not finding—

I found one [upright] man among a thousand,

but not one [upright] woman among them all.

This only have I found:

God made mankind upright,

but men have gone in search of many schemes.”

Ecclesiastes 7:27-29

Whatever the Teacher means, what we find in these words is this:  If it is hard to find a good man, it is just as hard, if not harder, to find a good woman.  At any rate, there is no favoritism with God.  As far as He is concerned, both good men and good women are rare.  

Look again at these familiar words:

 A wife of noble character who can find? 

She is worth far more than rubies. 

Proverbs 31:10

Rare indeed, and hard to find, is a wife of noble character.  When a man finds her, he finds with her God's favor, according to the scriptures.  But where does he find her?

BEHIND THE SCENES!

This very same trait that makes a good man attractive does the same for a good woman:  HUMILITY.  

As I said in my article on finding a good man, so I say about finding a good woman:  

A good woman may be found literally or figuratively behind the scenes.   

Literally, like Christ, she does not strive to draw all attention to herself.  She is content to go unnoticed so that Christ, her truest love, may be noticed instead.  This is contrary to the ways of this world, where women suffer the temptation of seduction.  This world promotes the idea of a woman turning every head when she walks in the room, the heads of men AND women alike!  She must STAND OUT!  Through make up, tight and revealing clothes, perfumes, and many other tactics, she seeks to be seen and noticed and focused upon.  This is not the way of the woman of God, the good woman.

Even in leadership positions, she doesn't seek to be center of attention.  Her focus is on the will of God, loving God, and loving people. Her confidence is in the love of her Savior, Husband, and Brother, Jesus the Lord.  Having his love and attention, she desires the love of one man, her beloved husband.  With her Lord, and her lover, she is content.  She seeks no more attention than they give.

If you are a good man, as I say again, you have probably already met her.  She may be in the background, doing her job, studying for her exams.  She may be quiet or outgoing, but either way, she is not self-centered.  Her beauty radiates from the inside out.  She does not force your attention via tactics of seduction.  You may notice her if you choose, but you do have a choice.  She is rare among women.  If you have met her, do not lose sight of her.  If you haven't yet met her, now you know where to look, and who to look for.

Look behind the scenes.

Look for the one who doesn't demand your attention through seduction.