How much attention should a woman get? (Part 2)

Women who seek attention indiscriminately are more complicated.  The adulteress purposely seeks attention she should not receive, seeking more attention than she is due, the attention that only God and husbands should receive.  She is easy to know from afar and thus easier to resist.  But the woman in category two, as listed in my first article, may be expressing legitimate or illegitimate desires, and thus could be more dangerous.  This is how.

Let's say she is unmarried and wants to be married.  She may be simply "putting it out there" that she is "available."  Now she is not giving off a specific vibe to a specific man or even a specific kind of man.  Some may call her "desperate," but I don't like the negative connotation of that word.  She just wants to be in a relationship very badly, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that....unless she doesn't care whether the man is married or not.  Then she would move from category two to category one.  I've personally experienced this.  Two women have approached me as a married man.  One expressed attraction, and after I told her I was married she said, "Well, if you don't mind she doesn't matter!"  Adulteress!  Evil!  She wasn't wrong for finding me attractive, but for dishonoring my wife.  The second woman, after finding out I am married, said, "How married are you?"  Wickedness!  Hellishness!  They both moved from category two to category one.

So in summary, the category two woman, if she is unmarried, may simply want to be in a relationship very badly, and may be making that known through the vibration she transmits.  Her vibe is indiscriminate.  If she respects other committed relationships, she remains in category two, but if she does not respect other relationships, she becomes an adulteress in category one.

Now some category two women are married.  The same applies to them.  The married woman may not be getting the attention she should be getting from her husband. So she "gives off" a kind of lonely vibe, a vibe that longs to be noticed and appreciated.  If she goes to her husband and tells him this, she remains in category two.  If her husband refuses to be sensitive to his wife's needs, and she goes to God, she still remains in category two.  God feels great love and compassion for these women, and will vindicate them.  He noticed the unloved Leah in the story of Jacob, and he notices all wives who are unloved.  

But if the unloved or ignored wife takes matters into her own hands and gives off vibes indiscriminately, she moves to category one and becomes an adulteress, seeking the attention of a man that is not her husband.  She becomes a kind of "desperate housewife" if you will.  This vibe is very distinct, and must be avoided or resisted.  I believe this is actually warned about in Proverbs by Solomon when he speaks of an adulterous woman whose husband is away.  (See Proverbs 5, Proverbs 6:20-35, and especially Proverbs 7.)

Now remember our goal and focus is this:  To answer the question, "How much attention should a woman get?"  Each category of women I'm describing is leading us to the answer...found in part 3...click here.